The tyranny of the to-do list

I've stopped connecting with them as their father, largely trying to encourage them to "find something to do" while I go about adulting all over the house -- put things away here, clean this thing over there, straighten this stuff, and on and on. And if I'm not pursuing the next item to be crossed off my list, I'm running the boys to the grocery store or the hardware store or some retail harbor because we believe we need stuff.